"Tie the dog to the damn tree" is some advice Laura heard a few years ago and in the past month, as things started to fall apart, she realized she needed to listen. This week we talk about the anxiety and problems that ensue when we can't tell the difference between what's urgent and important, how to learn to discern between the two, and what to do.
This week, we get the full backstory on how Meadow came to do the work she does. She talks about the first company she owned, working for Martha Beck, being on Oprah, digging herself out of a half-million in debt, and more.
This week, we dig into that awful four-letter word: SELFISH. To many, being selfish—as in, putting your needs above the needs of others—is one the worst possible ways of being, and it’s avoided at all costs. As teachers, selfishness is one of the most common themes among students in our classes, especially with women: even the idea of doing something for oneself is uncomfortable at best, and sometimes downright impossible.
So, what does it really mean to be a selfish person? What does this belief system create in our lives? Is there a balance? Let's talk.
“Philip Morris just wanted your lungs; the App Store wants your soul.” - Bill Maher.
This week, we explore the concept of Digital Minimalism, as described in Cal Newport's new book of the same title, the significant changes we've both made in response, the early results we've seen, as well as some of the open questions and fears we each have. This isn't about hating on tech (we love it!) but rather understanding the real impact of how we are now "connected", making choices based on what you value most, crushing some of the myths of being an online entrepreneur and "needing" social media, and deciding how you really want to spend your life.
Meet Anger: one of the five core emotions, and also one of the most demonized and misunderstood. This week, we take a deep dive into what emotions actually are, what anger exists for, and why it is so critical to your sense of self and emotional health.
In part 5, the final part in the boundaries series, Meadow and Laura answer a letter from "C", whose wondering how to kindly set boundaries with her husband. Her question is about physical boundaries (he quite literally won't get off her lap) but M&L discuss what may really be happening.
In part 4 of 5 of the boundary series, Meadow and Laura answer a letter from a mom (Natalie) who is trying to figure out the age-old boundary question: how do you set one without hurting feelings? Is it possible to have boundaries and still be likable? Plus, a bonus riff on their favorite shows ever.
In Part 3 of the Boundary Series, Laura and Meadow discuss the flip side of boundary violations: containment. There are some super sneaky ways we violate other people's boundaries including gossip, triangulation, "helping" and actual, (ahem) trespassing.
In Part 2 of the Boundary Series, Laura and Meadow discuss the first signs of boundary violations, why anger is such a vital emotion, and how to start protecting your own space when other people are living all over you.
(Special credit to Dinosour Jr. for the inspo for the episode title. Laura has been waiting to use this somewhere since approximately 2001.)
We talk and hear about boundaries all the time, but what the hell are they? Why should we care? In the first part of a series on boundaries, Laura & Meadow define in the simplest terms what boundaries are, what they're not, and what happens when we don't have them.