This week, we answer a letter from a reader about the difference between self-help and therapy, how we first landed with therapy, and what our experiences were like.
Earlier this week, Laura came within inches of a panic attack. In this episode, we dissect the thoughts and feelings leading up to that moment, how she pulled herself out, and what we learned from it. This one is a meditation on friendship, dating, foreboding joy, worthiness, and the futility of trying to control what we cannot.
This week we talk about wanting more. Even when we have a lot! EVEN WHEN WE SEEMINGLY HAVE IT ALL. We talk about finally putting your foot down and no longer settling for smallness or "good enough". Whether it's money, work, love, friendships, your health, ANYTHING, you're allowed to want more.
"Tie the dog to the damn tree" is some advice Laura heard a few years ago and in the past month, as things started to fall apart, she realized she needed to listen. This week we talk about the anxiety and problems that ensue when we can't tell the difference between what's urgent and important, how to learn to discern between the two, and what to do.
What if you consciously committed to failure and rejection? This week we share some of our own big failures (past and current), how to actually tell if you’re failing (because sometimes it’s not obvious!), and the difference between failing smart and failing, well, dumb.
This week's original episode went in the trash. We spent 90-minutes talking about the history of our love lives and when we pressed "end" on the recording, knew that it would never see the light of day. So, we recorded another, wherein we talk about the things we don't share, and why, curiosity, trauma porn, privacy, secrets, secure relationships, and more.
This week, we dig into that awful four-letter word: SELFISH. To many, being selfish—as in, putting your needs above the needs of others—is one the worst possible ways of being, and it’s avoided at all costs. So, what does it really mean to be a selfish person? What does this belief system create in our lives? Is there a balance? Let's talk.
One of the most important questions we can ask ourselves in this life is: how much is enough? In our home, our relationships, money, work, success, our belongings, what is the value of going bigger, and what are the costs? This week, we talk about how we've been wrestling with this question in our own lives and the surprising contrasts in our desires.
This week, we answer a letter from a woman who's wondering about her friendships. What do friendships actually look like as an adult? Do they look like an episode of Friends, or something else? How do Friends fit into our lives as we get older? And how the hell do you make new friends? Meadow and Laura both talk about the shifts in their friendships over the years, what people tend to think vs. the reality, and where friends fit into their life now.
Alt. episode title: "Examine What You Tolerate". This week, we recount times when we've told ourselves "It's not that bad" when in reality, it was that bad--and actually a lot worse. Why do we do that? What's the price? And how can you be onto yourself before you dig yourself into a too-deep hole?
“Philip Morris just wanted your lungs; the App Store wants your soul.” - Bill Maher.
This week, we explore the concept of Digital Minimalism, as described in Cal Newport's new book of the same title, the significant changes we've both made in response, the early results we've seen, as well as some of the open questions and fears we each have. This isn't about hating on tech (we love it!) but rather understanding the real impact of how we are now "connected", making choices based on what you value most, crushing some of the myths of being an online entrepreneur and "needing" social media, and deciding how you really want to spend your life.
How do you get everyone to like you? WE'VE GOT THE SPECIAL FORMULA! This week, Meadow and Laura share their 15 tips to make sure you never disappoint, hurt, or even mildly irritate anyone else.
In this episode, Laura & Meadow read a doozie of a letter from a woman who has "lit herself on fire to keep someone else warm" and dissect the difference between enabling and helping.
Co-dependency has been called "The Disease of The Lost Self" and we think that's exactly the right description. In this episode, Laura & Meadow talk about the basics of co-dependency: what it is, what it isn't, some common myths, and how you can start to look at it in your own life.