This week's original episode went in the trash. We spent 90-minutes talking about the history of our love lives and when we pressed "end" on the recording, knew that it would never see the light of day. So, we recorded another, wherein we talk about the things we don't share, and why, curiosity, trauma porn, privacy, secrets, secure relationships, and more.
This week, we get the full backstory on how Laura came to do the work she does. She talks about what she did for work in the fifteen years before she quit her job in 2016, how and when and why she started podcasting and blogging, what led up to the moment she quit, making big leaps, the angels along the way, and more.
Not the typical Spiritualish episode, this week we work out a question in real time. What is this elusive myth of balance? Work-life balance. Love-work balance. Family-work-love-life-home balance. Anything-balance. Is it possible? Is it even desirable?
This week, we dig into that awful four-letter word: SELFISH. To many, being selfish—as in, putting your needs above the needs of others—is one the worst possible ways of being, and it’s avoided at all costs. So, what does it really mean to be a selfish person? What does this belief system create in our lives? Is there a balance? Let's talk.
One of the most important questions we can ask ourselves in this life is: how much is enough? In our home, our relationships, money, work, success, our belongings, what is the value of going bigger, and what are the costs? This week, we talk about how we've been wrestling with this question in our own lives and the surprising contrasts in our desires.
This week, we answer a letter from a woman who's wondering about her friendships. What do friendships actually look like as an adult? Do they look like an episode of Friends, or something else? How do Friends fit into our lives as we get older? And how the hell do you make new friends? Meadow and Laura both talk about the shifts in their friendships over the years, what people tend to think vs. the reality, and where friends fit into their life now.
Alt. episode title: "Examine What You Tolerate". This week, we recount times when we've told ourselves "It's not that bad" when in reality, it was that bad--and actually a lot worse. Why do we do that? What's the price? And how can you be onto yourself before you dig yourself into a too-deep hole?
“Philip Morris just wanted your lungs; the App Store wants your soul.” - Bill Maher.
This week, we explore the concept of Digital Minimalism, as described in Cal Newport's new book of the same title, the significant changes we've both made in response, the early results we've seen, as well as some of the open questions and fears we each have. This isn't about hating on tech (we love it!) but rather understanding the real impact of how we are now "connected", making choices based on what you value most, crushing some of the myths of being an online entrepreneur and "needing" social media, and deciding how you really want to spend your life.
As a culture, we tend to glorify the idea of chasing your passion. We've all heard the adage, "Find something you love and you'll never work another day in your life." What we don't hear about all that often, though, is the real price of giving a shit about your work.
This week, we answer a letter from "Basic Millennial." He's at a crossroads, between jobs, trying to figure out how he can do something he really loves and finds meaning in, while also being a breadwinner.
Meet Anger: one of the five core emotions, and also one of the most demonized and misunderstood. This week, we take a deep dive into what emotions actually are, what anger exists for, and why it is so critical to your sense of self and emotional health.
How do you keep going when nothing seems to be working? How do you stay in the game when things become overwhelming? What's the effing point of it all? This week we discuss how despair, hopelessness, sadness and happiness work to figure out what the "point" actually is.
Loneliness may just be the most dangerous affliction of our time. In this episode, we dissect it: What is loneliness, anyway? How is it different than isolation and solitude? Why are we so damn lonely and is there anything we can do about it? We each talk about our own maps of loneliness, what it was like, and how we got through (or didn't).
Self-care is all the rage, but what does it actually mean? In this longer-than-usual ep, Laura and Meadow take down some of the myths of self-care, why it's *way* more important than it sounds, and what it might look like for different types of people.
How do you get everyone to like you? WE'VE GOT THE SPECIAL FORMULA! This week, Meadow and Laura share their 15 tips to make sure you never disappoint, hurt, or even mildly irritate anyone else.
In this episode, Laura & Meadow read a doozie of a letter from a woman who has "lit herself on fire to keep someone else warm" and dissect the difference between enabling and helping.
Co-dependency has been called "The Disease of The Lost Self" and we think that's exactly the right description. In this episode, Laura & Meadow talk about the basics of co-dependency: what it is, what it isn't, some common myths, and how you can start to look at it in your own life.
How do you actually SAY the hard things? In this episode, Laura and Meadow run through word-for-word scripts to say some of the most common difficult things like, "Why aren't you drinking?" and "Do you want to have dinner?" (when you don't) and more.
How do we speak hard truths? Following the last two episodes about truth and lying, in this one Laura and Meadow talk about the three "gates" your speech should pass through before you actually say... well, anything.
Laura and Meadow respond to a letter from a woman who can't stop lying. Why do we lie? How do we start to tell the truth? And how do we even know what the hell the truth is in the first place? (Sidebar: this is the second time this episode was recorded aaaaand you'll get to hear Laura & Meadow work through the discomfort of how *that* all went down.)
In part 5, the final part in the boundaries series, Meadow and Laura answer a letter from "C", whose wondering how to kindly set boundaries with her husband. Her question is about physical boundaries (he quite literally won't get off her lap) but M&L discuss what may really be happening.