“Survival mode is supposed to be a phase that helps save your life. It is not meant to be how you live.” -Michael Rosenthal. So why is it that we tend to throw ourselves into that mode, long after survival is not an issue? We've got answers! This week we unpack how to tell the difference between actual survival mode and a drama loop and why you might be thriving on "surviving".
Ahhh, Impostor Syndrome. The hidden affliction of... maybe, everyone? We break it down, talk about when we've felt it, why, how it's stopped us from moving forward, and how you can work with it so it stops stopping you.
Is there a conversation you've been having for waaaaay too long? (There is, we promise.) This week, we talk about the conversations we want to stop having, and what happens when you get stuck in a loop without realizing it.
This week, we recap what happened during a girls weekend in Big Sur together. Highlights include Murder Mountain, Marie Kondo, 67 pounds of coffee, and collage making (#nerdalert). But not just any collage. We did what Meadow teaches as part of her course, The Worthy Project--a collage that drastically upended her life the first time she did it. It's a specific formula and we'll give you a fly-on-the-wall view of how we constructed ours, how it works, and how you can build your own worthy backbone.
How do you keep going when nothing seems to be working? How do you stay in the game when things become overwhelming? What's the effing point of it all? This week we discuss how despair, hopelessness, sadness and happiness work to figure out what the "point" actually is.
Loneliness may just be the most dangerous affliction of our time. In this episode, we dissect it: What is loneliness, anyway? How is it different than isolation and solitude? Why are we so damn lonely and is there anything we can do about it? We each talk about our own maps of loneliness, what it was like, and how we got through (or didn't).
Self-care is all the rage, but what does it actually mean? In this longer-than-usual ep, Laura and Meadow take down some of the myths of self-care, why it's *way* more important than it sounds, and what it might look like for different types of people.
How do you get everyone to like you? WE'VE GOT THE SPECIAL FORMULA! This week, Meadow and Laura share their 15 tips to make sure you never disappoint, hurt, or even mildly irritate anyone else.
In this episode, Laura & Meadow read a doozie of a letter from a woman who has "lit herself on fire to keep someone else warm" and dissect the difference between enabling and helping.
Co-dependency has been called "The Disease of The Lost Self" and we think that's exactly the right description. In this episode, Laura & Meadow talk about the basics of co-dependency: what it is, what it isn't, some common myths, and how you can start to look at it in your own life.
How do you actually SAY the hard things? In this episode, Laura and Meadow run through word-for-word scripts to say some of the most common difficult things like, "Why aren't you drinking?" and "Do you want to have dinner?" (when you don't) and more.
How do we speak hard truths? Following the last two episodes about truth and lying, in this one Laura and Meadow talk about the three "gates" your speech should pass through before you actually say... well, anything.
Laura and Meadow respond to a letter from a woman who can't stop lying. Why do we lie? How do we start to tell the truth? And how do we even know what the hell the truth is in the first place? (Sidebar: this is the second time this episode was recorded aaaaand you'll get to hear Laura & Meadow work through the discomfort of how *that* all went down.)
In part 5, the final part in the boundaries series, Meadow and Laura answer a letter from "C", whose wondering how to kindly set boundaries with her husband. Her question is about physical boundaries (he quite literally won't get off her lap) but M&L discuss what may really be happening.
In part 4 of 5 of the boundary series, Meadow and Laura answer a letter from a mom (Natalie) who is trying to figure out the age-old boundary question: how do you set one without hurting feelings? Is it possible to have boundaries and still be likable? Plus, a bonus riff on their favorite shows ever.
In Part 3 of the Boundary Series, Laura and Meadow discuss the flip side of boundary violations: containment. There are some super sneaky ways we violate other people's boundaries including gossip, triangulation, "helping" and actual, (ahem) trespassing.
In Part 2 of the Boundary Series, Laura and Meadow discuss the first signs of boundary violations, why anger is such a vital emotion, and how to start protecting your own space when other people are living all over you.
(Special credit to Dinosour Jr. for the inspo for the episode title. Laura has been waiting to use this somewhere since approximately 2001.)
We talk and hear about boundaries all the time, but what the hell are they? Why should we care? In the first part of a series on boundaries, Laura & Meadow define in the simplest terms what boundaries are, what they're not, and what happens when we don't have them.
While Laura was down with the flu, she realized how bad she sucks at asking for help. So this week, they talk about some of the myths around asking for help, what it means to be part of a village, and why we want to continually tell ourselves that we can do life alone.
What do we do when everything falls apart, despite our best effort? When our good intentions are misunderstood? When the haters hate? When we can't make ourselves small enough to be liked? Laura and Meadow discuss.